This is a guest post from OMG We're Pregnant, a couple dealing with their unplanned pregnancy and the laughs, tears and tantrums that go with it! You may find more at http://omgip.blogspot.com and @omgpregnant on Twitter.
I decided that I need to get this out. I keep trying to convince myself everything will be okay, and it's not something I need to worry about just now... but I can't help but constantly think about it. I think articles I have read, such as:
Women who do not breastfeed their infants are nearly four times more likely to neglect and abuse their child...
- haven't helped at all. I mean, surely that's a load off bullshit propaganda! There is such a campaign on the internet that 'breast is best' that all the information for alternatives seem to start with the suggestion that you aren't breast feeding because you can't for one reason or another.
Hi
Here's an article for you to consider.
Let me know if you need anything else........
This one has had a load of comments, some people have had really strong points of view....
Thanks
Claire
My Blog
http://omgip.blogspot.com
The original article can be found here: http://omgip.blogspot.com/2009/06/breast-may-be-best-but-is-it-for-me.html
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Picture the scene, a young couple (okay, well a couple of 30 and 31) madly in love, engaged to get married, they have it all planned out, and kids are not on the agenda not just yet, they're happy as they are. But then, by accident, Mrs finds out she is pregnant. Mrs is naive about all things baby including pregnancy, and uses the blog to say what she thinks....
My Post
For me, at 20 weeks gone, I am not sure whether I can or can't. But what I do know is that right now, I don't want to. In fact, the thought of it repulses me. I know that I am not the only person who has this feeling, some people like Perfectly Happy Mum have said where they stand out loud and proud, yet others responded with my original tweet (on twitter) with a direct message that they agree - but did not reply 'out loud'. I wonder why? Perhaps I'm looking in to this too deeply?
Why is NOT breast feeding such a taboo subject? Why do people look down on you when you say you don't want to? I'm not stupid, I know and understand the benefits, I really do BUT I still can't say the thought of my baby hanging off my boob appeals to me.
It's not just that. I want to have my man help when he's home, and he will want to help too and I imagine I will be going back to work quite soon after the baby is born, so wont be about to breast feed. Another thing for people to look down upon me for, I am sure. But fuck you. I thought and believe the whole point of woman's liberation is about choice and the right to choose. If I choose not to breastfeed that's fine, if I choose to go back to work that's also fine. Isn't it?! (I will do another post about working vs motherhood, as that's a whole new dilemma!)
Anyway, back to boobs....
I know I don't need to make any decisions right now. And I know I may change my thoughts when the baby pops out but I just can't see that happening.
What I fear is pressure from the midwifes and other 'professionals' at the hospital, that they will just take over and pressure me in to doing something I don't want to. So what do I do about that? Help. I am worried about this whole issue. :0(
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